You’re Worth It.
Stress, anxiety, overload. Everyone has felt like their world is crashing down around them at least once. Usually it’s due to daily stress piling up on us with no end in sight and no way to find relief. Sometimes it’s due to life events that leave us feeling depressed or anxious. Life is a wirlwind of emotions and sometimes dealing with all those emotions at once takes a big toll on us and we find ourselves wishing for someway out, wishing for it to end, but life doesn’t give us an easy way out. You either push forward, or you lie down and give up. Giving up isn’t an option, because giving up is letting yourself down and letting everyone around you down.
Recently a tragic event has happened in my family, a family member of mine committed suicide. Even more recently, another very close family member of mine attempted to do the same thing, but luckily failed. Ending your life doesn’t solve anything, because you are no longer here to feel any positive effects. The only effects of ending your life is the negative effects it has on your family and friends who have to deal with the loss of your life. Nothing is ever bad enough that the only option is suicide. Life goes on and if you stick around you’ll learn that bad events, mistakes, they become the past and your future is anything you make it, but you have to be alive to have a future.
If that isn’t enough, suicide is selfish, because you’re only thinking about yourself. You don’t know the people you will hurt, the people you will betray by ending your life. If you don’t believe there’s anyone who will care, trust me, there is. There always is. I know what it’s like to have those thoughts, because I’ve contemplated suicide myself, and trust me, lots of people have. You aren’t alone in the world. Suicide isn’t the answer, it’s a white flag. It’s you saying to the world that it’s beat you.
121 million people in the world suffer from depression (World Health Organization). In 2006, in America alone, there were 10.9 suicide deaths for every 100,000 people and for every suicide death there were an estimated 12-15 attempted suicides (NIMH). What forces people into these critical and fragile emotional states? Society. We as a society, as a people, fail to see what we are doing wrong. I was watching the new show on MTV called “If You Really Knew Me” and I was saddened to see that this is the truth.
How do you make a judgement on a person? Most of the time it’s through first impressions. How do you make a first impression? Almost always though appearences. This is where society fails. We judge people based on appearences, we blatantly decide not to look beyond a person’s looks, clothing, etc to who they may be inside. We then use this judgement to discriminate. Discriminate against anyone who doesn’t fit our definition of “normal”. She doesn’t wear the “right” kind of cloths, he doesn’t have the “right” kind of hair, she wears too much black, he looks like stuck-up jock, it’s sad but this is how many people think.
What happens to the people on the other end of the stick? Ever stop to think about how they feel, what they’re going through? Of course not, why should you? Why, because, believe it or not, one day your going to be on the other end and your going to wish people would take the time to get to know you. Karma’s a bitch, believe me, I’ve witnessed it and even felt it, but that’s not what this post is about. (I’m starting to get off topic, enough ranting.)
Because people are discriminated for being different, people become stressed, they feel alone. Every living thing requires love to live, because love is what makes happiness. Love is the one thing that everyone craves, everyone needs, and without love, we feel depressed, worthless, hopeless, and alone. If we as a society, as a people, somehow realize this and adopt this into our own lives, the world would really be a better place. If we could look past appearences, past mistakes, past differences, the world would finally be a happy and healthy place to live.
Every living thing has a right to live their lives happily because everyone has worth.
You have worth.
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Tags: depression, differences, family, first impressions, friends, happiness, love, respect, self-esteem, self-worth, society, suicide
I think your comments are a crock of shit to put it bluntly! Im really tired of the canned response of committing suicide. Like of all those you will hurt. Oh ok, like Im supposed to have some sort of epiphany about my life because others will cry hearing of me being dead. Big deal, they will still go to work, carry on and live their lives. Just because it might be an inconvienance for them, going to a funeral or something. I think about it all the time, but I am just a coward and cant get past hurting myself, but I hate being alive. Life sucks, and there is no hope or future for me. Tired of all the platitudes and talking points about how grand and special it is, yeah maybe for you! To think that it is selfish because of how others will feel afterward, I dont give a shit!!! My family is scattered all over, I have no real friends, my brother, sister, mother and father yeah they will cry and hurt, but I hardly talk to any of them, we have no real connection to each other and they are doing really great with their own lives. So tell me how would I be hurting them, I have no impact on their lives why would it be so horrible for them. Im pretty sure everyone of my family didn’t wake up today wondering how I am or wanting to get to know me as an adult or an individual, so really come up with something better than think of all those you will hurt. Such crap!!!!!!
I’m sorry that you think so Matthew. No matter how you feel though, you’re still worth it.